Aurora, I don't think you lost! I think you won, because you had the courage to protect yourself, and sometimes that's the best that can be done in a difficult relationship. I've been in similar situations, and I know how hard it was for me to admit that I was vulnerable and needed to protect myself, even if it meant making a difficult break. I think that what he said about you selling yourself short was very manipulative. It was very courageous for your to accept your limitations, that it's too hard for you to be around him, and take steps to avoid getting into more hurtful interactions with him. I hope you will take pride in that.