I used to get angry at AH's brief sober interludes because I was walking on eggshells. He didn't want to discuss anything having to do with alcoholism, he just wanted to enjoy his sober time. I can understand that but it felt like I was expected to sweep everything under the rug. I couldn't have discussions with him when he was drinking and then I felt I couldn't have discussions when he was sober either. I felt like I was always repressing everything.