Todzilla....at least, at 16, there is not quite so much agony over custody issues as with younger children-- if things are untoward.
It looks as if the whole family is approaching a crossroads of life in one way or anther, doesn't it?
I am sure that you are proud of your other children, also. It is a blessing that they have their feet on the ground and have healthy relationships. This is what all parents want for their kids.
I think that alanon and your therapy will help you to distinguish between what may be clinging to "false hope" and what is true reality. And, that my friend, is one big melon!
dandylion