Oh honey, you're not stupid. You've been duped, and so have most of the rest of us. If you hang around long enough, you'll realize that we come from all walks of life. These diseases don't discriminate. Having good breeding doesn't make anyone immune to falling for an addict. We have doctors, lawyers, nurses, social workers, college students, stay-at-home moms, unemployed men and women, and everything in between here. Some are even lucky enough to be double winners (alcoholics and have a relationship with an addict/alcoholic). There's no "type" when it comes to addiction or codependency. Really. In that respect, you're just like everyone else here. We get it. No matter what you're going through, someone here has walked in those shoes and understands where you're coming from. Don't be afraid to post here. Sometimes our feedback can seem a little blunt, but that's because we've got the collective experience to be able to know how any given situation is likely to end. We will hold your hand, but we aren't going to sugarcoat anything. In time you'll find that we are all here to help, and some things you may not understand now will start to make sense.