wwdove--am so glad you could write...and can feel your pain...it is a lot and there is a lot on the plate to unfold...including Christmas--which is challenging for so many.
am practicing what katiekate suggested which is to do your best to let it unfold...and I hope that you can as well.
if it helps at all...I have actually prayed for my AD to be arrested and put in jail given my despair over her unwillingness to do anything to help herself and there are stories of those who have gotten clean in jail or prison as I know some mothers on another web site who have shared...
know it must be even harder with your 23 month old GD being affected...and yet...the only effective thing I have ever found to work in the midst of a lifetime of addicts (some discovered after the fact in my FOO) is when able to 'let go and let God'...'releasing in love'...and it takes work and practice for me to get there with each new addict...
will you be able to spend some time on Christmas with your GD?
Putting virtual arms around you and just want you to know you are not alone.
God Bless.