Hey Stung
Hope you're feeling better
I hear a lot of words being used like your husband being "worried" and "afraid".
I've found the "tables" can keep turning back and forth between people.
The best relationships I know of are where each person takes care of themselves and their illness with the steps and then HP every day. Then we give to each other from a place of love. No one is depletion themselves because we're giving from our excess and resentments don't build.
Best to you on the road to recovery