Funny thing happened this weekend...
I held my ground, gray area and all. And I let xah know that if and when child services call me I fully intend to let them know all my concerns. That is simply a fact. But it's one I said out loud to xah.
Next thing I know he sent me an addendum to the parenting plan that he proposes we add that states he will prove sobriety anytime he is around he kids.
He is clearly afraid of child services and proposing this to make himself look more agreeable.
But you know what? Who cares what his motives are!!! I erred in not adding that initially and now he's the one offering to add it.
Win win.