I was thinking similarly to DMC. What he is doing sounds abusive to me. Perhaps read the sticky at the top of Friends and Family of Alcoholics regarding "about abuse" and see if any of that makes sense to you.
I don't know anything about paws, but I know what he is doing/saying to you and the mental/emotional impact is not healthy for you and you need to self protect against that. Don't listen to the lies -- they are just that, lies. Please get the help you need to see through them. HUGS and take good care of yourself.