So much great advice, please take it and move forward without your boyfriend. If I would have paid attention to the red flags three months into my relationship with my xabf, I would have left then. Instead I stayed and a year and a half, I finally got the courage to leave....but only after physically and verbal abuse, lies and cheating. He always promised to get sober but never did. Things will not get better only worse.
(((Hugs)))