Need to be 100% sure and confident of myself at all times.
not possible, Carbonized. it's inhumane to ask it of yourself. entirely unrealistic.
you're neither a total winner or a total loser. these either/or judgments serve only the "loser" side eventually.
the really tough stuff for me is getting a more realistic perspective and allow my vulnerabilities and weaknesses to just be. to be not-confident at times and confident at others. to be okay while being unsure. to become more accepting of what i was "taught" was unacceptable. undesirable.
don't need to be perfect to be okay. and not being perfect does not equal being a loser.