Yes, I often feel very guilty, I am terrible with maintaining boundaries with my ex. I've been cheated on and disrespected over and over, and yet I sometimes feel panicked and guilty that I am the one living in the family home with the children, whilst he lives on his own in a flat that he keeps saying is "too cold" and which he "can't afford to heat". Once he contacts me, it's like I can't cope anymore, I panic and spend sleepless nights turning things over and over in my head. I hate that he can trigger such a reaction in me. Liking the "feelings aren't facts" thing- will try to remember that