I feel the guilt every day, but I can't allow it to direct my behavior or decide my mood. (Some days I am more successful at this than others!) Even though I've adjusted my thought processes to something much healthier, I have just enough codependent hardwiring that it's going to take a long time to change my emotional responses. I try to remember that, as NYCDoglvr posted above, my feelings aren't facts. They give me incomplete information, as in "OUCH! That hurts! That might be something important, so PAY ATTENTION!" Right now, that guilt is useful because it points out to me where my recovery isn't as strong as it should be. Not the most satisfying, but it is something I can live with for now because it's something I can use.