Initially, yes. My thinking was sort of turned around: I felt like getting a restraining order against AXH while we were still married was "ruining his life" because his name would be in the court system and how would that affect his work life and image and reputation?
It took me a long time to both understand and accept that I didn't do it to him, he did it to himself. All I did was protect my own safety.
It was difficult for me because regardless of dysfunction, after 20 years, I had strong emotional ties to him. I (still) felt responsible for him. But a friend kept asking me, "if anyone else in the world had done to you what he has done to you -- would you feel bad about getting a restraining order against them? Would you worry about how it would affect a stranger's reputation if he had threatened to kill you and you reported the threat and got a restraining order?"