Not anymore. Like Gracie, I wasn't "allowed" boundaries around my alcoholic mother.
I had to learn about them and slowly dismantle the walls she is talking about.
Honestly, I still have some walls in place but it is a work in progress.
I think it did make me feel "guilty" at first to say no and to mean it, but now it
feels like I am supporting myself and that actually feels good and empowering.
I think it is a good thing and I wish you well killer--that space you are creating can really allow you room to heal.