Thanks for sharing that Jeni. I suppose I didn't learn how to be a parent from the best sources. I would never blame them entirely though, as not taking responsibility would go against everything my sobriety is built on. Every action I've taken during my adult life was taken on my own free will. And only on my own free will can anything be changed.
There were alternatives I could have taken, such as parenting classes. Choosing not to drink may have been a good idea as well! But bottom line, I didn't know how to be a parent, or a husband for that matter. And apparently I still don't. I wonder if there are grandparenting classes.
I think I've taken up enough room on the boards with this. So thank you all.