I remember when my XAH was in the throes of addiction, I came here in desperation. What I was looking for was how to fix HIM. Everyone here kept telling me I could not, that I could only work on me. Wait, what?? There was nothing wrong with me...haha! I left for a time b/c I was not hearing what I wanted to hear. I later came back because I was finally ready. I was not terminally unique after all. Everyone has to hear things as they are ready.
I definitely step away from and stay out of some threads b/c it hurts me to see some people that I care about hurting themselves even deeper. Yet I know, they are not ready. And sometimes the situation is overwhelming and I just have nothing to say. That's ok too.
I think the important thing to remember is that we are here to support and encourage each other. I thank you Seren for the reminder of that. I always enjoy your thoughtful posts very very much.
Tight hugs to all. SR is a great place to be and I thank God for all of you on a regular basis.