Originally Posted by
seek 
It also says no one "caused" it - which from my perspective is not completely true. . . ..
You may not follow that is not really what it says?
the three C's are:
YOU (the Alanon person) did not Cause, Cure, or Control it.
Follow the difference?
We (Alanon types) often hear from a Practicing A that *we* somehow caused their addictions, problems, etc.
Dunno if you follow that many A's cannot or do not want to take self-responsibility and will lie to themselves, us, and others that *we* some how cause *their* problems.
Dunno if you have my version of the experience? For those who may benefit . . .
[Sitting in an Alanon room, all older women, except me, me looking at my shoe tips, taking a big breath so I can do this without crying]
Hammer: "What do you do when they tell you it is your fault?"
Rest of Room -- All stops. Looks at me. And then just start laughing and laughing.
I look up and am staring around the room with my lips quivering.
One sees that and stops laughing, and she says:
"OH HONEY! WE HAVE ALL HEARD THAT, TOO!
And then they all went back to laughing.
I did not know what to do, so I laughed some, too.
THAT day, I started laughing some.
And started to get a little bit better.
Triple C.