It took me quite awhile to work up the courage to go to Alanon. I am a person who prefers to "emote in private" as my therapist likes to put it. I suffer from a lot of social anxiety meeting strangers and going into unfamiliar situations and the depression I was suffering just made me want to curl up and hide away from the world.
I'm glad I did finally go, after the gentle nudging of many SR members, whose wisdom and serenity I admired. I've been working the program for just over a year and it has probably been the single best thing I have done for myself in my life.
Keep sharing and feel free to vent. We are here for you.