I certainly was short & impatient with our daughter because of being preoccupied with my wife- all the usual codie stuff. But what was worse was arguing (occasionally quite nastily) with AW, in front of her. Things are a lot better since we both started recovery in Feb, alanon for me, women for sobriety and other stuff for her.
I could easily see all kinds of collateral damage done to kids by parents on both sides of addiction. In fact nearly everyone in my alanon home group works with family-of-origin issues; abusive parents of one form or another- and now 20,30,40 years later there is stuff to work on.
Getting less obsessed about RAW and more aware of myself has helped a bunch... daughter is more relaxed and accepting of her mother now.. so, progress.
