Carguysgirl, your post just brought me back 4.5 years. My H addicted son, 18 at the time (now 23) committed a robbery on a convenience store with a broken bb gun. In our state, it may as well have been a functioning real gun by law, so the court doesn't differentiate. He is now a convicted felon, and classified as a violent felon at that.
At the time I was petrified at the thought of the years of jail he was facing. The judge found mercy and he received a 3-7 year sentence...all suspended but 90 days and was placed on probation until further order of the court which could mean indefinitely (it is not related in any way to his 7 year max).
Fast forward to today...he has been to rehab more times than I can count on violations due to dirty UAs which resulted in VOPs. He now has a 22 month old beautiful baby girl and even this has not turned his life around. I am not trying to freak you out...but am speaking from my own personal experience here.
In hindsight.. I wish he hadn't received such a slap on the wrist. While I love my precious grandbaby with all of my heart.. I often wish he had just gone to jail for at least the 3 year minimum BEFORE she even existed or was a thought. Now I worry about her constantly and she is living a life that she never deserved to be brought into.
If I could turn back time..I would wish he had gone to jail for a few years in the hopes it would have straightened him out before he became a father.maybe we wouldn't be where we are today. I know its only a matter of time before he IS in jail except now there is a sweet baby girl who is going to be left behind with no dad and an addict mom who is also extremely codependant due in part to losing both her mom and dad due to alcohol and drug abuse in her preteen years.
Again.. I don't mean to scare you..but wish you to know where my hindsight has taken me. No parent wants there child to go to jail but I am here to tell you there are much worse things that can happen when there are few consequences. God bless you and your BF as you go through this difficult time!