JB- you are still missing the point. They expressed their concern and shared their opinion. That is not control. My husband controlled mine for a while. He bought the beer and kept it in his car. Gave me my allotment every day when he got home. I went along with it because I knew it wouldn't last forever. It didn't. He eventually got tired of it asked me to pick it up one day and that was it. I was right back where I started. That's control and it doesn't work.
I personally think your husband will drink again sooner rather than later or he will become a useless pothead. It is just a matter of time before he gets caught on the job stoned or gets involved in a work place accident where they will test him and he will get fired