Concern, yes. Influence because you loved them, yes.
BUT, now that you are starting your sobriety journey, do they nag you about it? Check up on your attending meetings? I am willing to bet the answer is no. Control and influence as a result of loving someone are different things.
Also, as the alcoholic, your first step was admitting you had no control over alcohol and learning to take back control of you by avoiding the alcohol right? Well, as a codependant, the first step is admitting you have no control over anyone else and regaining control of your own life
However, given how much you are battling with, maybe its enough to just focus on your sobriety and continuing to do the fantastic job you are. Perhaps now is not the time to worry about your partner's sobriety or your influence/control over him? Maybe this might not be the right time in your life yet to address codependency? Have you talked to your sponsor about it, what does she think?
40 days is early, but so so great that you are doing so well with it so far.
