Originally Posted by
Hawkeye13 
ladyscibbler is quite right that March is a long time away.
My grandmother used to say "don't borrow trouble" and perhaps that is good advice for this situation.
Both of you just staying sober through the holidays might be a better focus at the moment.
Put the emphasis on you (not him) and look after yourself.
It really does sound like the stress is beginning to get to you.
What self-care can you do to feel better and change gears?
Yes, the stress is sort of beginning to get to me because I am so worried. I need to let go and let God. It's funny, because he is so happy and calm these days, and I am the one worried. Taking care of myself involves going to work, exercising, visiting family. Tonight I went by myself to the mall and went Christmas shopping, so that was nice. I don't go christmas shopping with my husband because he is a spendthrift and will spend a lot of money, not only himself but everyone else, and we need to save for spending money for the cruise.
I think I became more stressed when I found out that he wanted to drink on the cruise. But I guess I will worry about that when it comes.