My AH did that for 18 months. I continued to stay sober and get my life together...feeling better and better. My sponsor told me to stay the course and that AH would either join me in recovery (AA or Al Anon) or he wouldn't.
AH came into AA a year and a half later. Our life together is amazing. There was quite a while there, though, where I was sure we weren't going to make it.
Glad you are here. Keep your sobriety the priority and the rest will fall into place where it is supposed to.