It is so great to see so many compassionate, understanding responses, directed towards both you and your wife. As someone who loved a person in active addiction, let me just say that when faced with the pain and devastation caused by this disease, we don't know what to do. We read, we reach out for help, and we make the best decisions we can in a frequently painful, scary situation. And we make a TON of mistakes, every one of us. I would agree with those who feel your wife overstepped her bounds here, and I can understand your anger, but I also can TOTALLY understand and relate to the fear and desperation that would lead her to that action.