Did your wife overstep her boundaries? Yep. But you need to recognize that as part of a relationship that has been warped by addiction, in her own ways she is as sick as you. If she called your counselor saying that you drank when in fact you hadn't, THAT would have warranted anger. It was perhaps misguided on her part, but the root of this tempest is your actions, not hers.
Give her the same consideration you are asking of others in this case: forgiveness.