12stepwife.....while your feelings are certainly understandable...as you probably crave reassurance that the relationship is still on solid ground (and we often see sex as evidence of that).....it really is a pretty steep expectation at this point in time.
Sex requires some complex co-ordination between the Upstairs and the Downstairs (wink).
If you were to unscrew the top of his head and looked in---you would probably see a tornado inside there. It is pretty hard to get frisky in the middle of a tornado.
I would say that the fact that h e was affectionate says a lot. The other may take several months, at least.
Helpful hint: Men do not respond well if they feel pressure to perform.
Do check out Hammer's suggestion about reading that l ink......
dandylion