I would focus on your sobriety right now. Try to explain to him that you are quitting and that these games are not helping your sobriety.. explain that right now you need support.
It's understandable that he may doubt your sincerity.. it's even understandable that you doubt your own sincerity but over time he will understand that you are sincere and truly need his support, openness and love.
If he continues to play these games then it may be time to reconsider your relationship. Some people are just like that by nature unless they face their own demons. Some like to be in relationships where they have an open hand, others just get sick of dealing with our alcoholism.
Be strong and lean on yourself. I know it is hard when you love and worry about someone and they ignore you. For me, that is the worst thing.