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Old 11-25-2014, 09:58 AM
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Originally Posted by FireSprite View Post
My go-to a lot of the time is "I'm sorry you feel that way".

I'm not apologizing FOR anything & also not taking any ownership of their feelings, but the person hearing it often feels apologized to based on how they interpret it. It gives me an easy way to end/walk away from the conversation.
Yeah, I used this one a lot in the past. Works for some people, but not always for conversations with AH. One time my AH said, "Sorry I feel WHAT way?" He wanted more explanation and wanted to drag an apology or definition of just how I thought he was feeling out of me. At that point, I get flustered trying to come up with something else to say and it all goes to heck. I can't tell you how many times my program responses get snarky comments back that are meant to get me to engage or go into more detail and, at which point, he can then start in with getting me on the crazy train. These days I just sit there and say nothing....seems to work best for now, LOL.
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