Thank you very much to all of you. And Dandylion, your comments made me take a deep breath. And the comment, "I do understand your feelings about it. If the sex life is o.k.--it feels like about 10% of the relationship. The minute it is not o.k.--it feels like 90% of the relationship." That is SOO true!!! If it were working or even kinda working I wouldn't be so obsessed with it, but since it isn't, I can't get it off of my mind. Which makes me feel like I am just going insane because I have zero power to fix it.
And Codejob, I appreciate what you said about it being a good sign that he IS cuddling and he did go to a general doctor. Once he has health insurance again, a visit to the urologist seems like the next step.
Thank you.