You doing Alanon, the Steps, any/all of that?
Nothing bad if you are not, but that is a Real Serious FIX YOU UP thing, especially if you have an A in your life. Sex is generally discussed outside the meetings -- ideally with your sponsor (most likely a woman), and is part of the Steps process.
Sort of funny along this topic, some folks early on have mused if Alanon is like a Meat Market / Divorced Horny Folks thing or something. Not much so. Funny just thinking about it.
Most I have noted in 4 years of Alanon is a couple of boob hugs and one really whacked woman (video gamer addict's wife who had not gotten any in some months) who I am pretty sure wanted me to do her in the parking lot, after I mentioned that I really wanted to be a "Godly Husband" (and Godly Father, Godly Man, Godly Servant, etc.) I pretty much peed my pants and ran away.
But really, Alanon, or Celebrate Recovery (note that is NOT Celibate Recovery
) or other programs REALLY can help *us* get our minds right.