Hey Canada1,personally for me i use that ole rule of thumb.Which is when in doubt...don't...Works for me.Especailly when making decisions,im emotional about.I wait until im more clear.Have you thought about recovery in the al-anon,program?I can't say enough great things about this program.In this program i was helped to see MY part in all the messes.Alcoholism,is a family disease.
all the best of the best...