How is he looking to use me? I'm just wondering what he has in mind. We don't live together, I've been careful not to enable him. Well, for one, he doesn't throw up or lose bladder... thank goodness. He just drinks a lot of wine or beer, has high tolerance and it makes him have behaviors that I don't like. I don't give him any money. However, I'm not meeting anyone else because I've been with him ... a situation that is going nowhere and I feel stressed over his health, his moods and how it's all in limbo.