You have been a loving caring friend,she does not have this ability. She cant even be a friend to herself now. Go to al-anon again. My family guilted me,when i sought recovery, I told them I love you,but i wont participate in the insanity. If you seek recovery diligently, maybe we can re-define our relationship. It is painful to let go of once was,but with every ending also comes a new beginning. I pray for all those who suffer as a result of the disease of addiction. Recovery is possible, with the love of a power greater then ourselves. I believe in the power of prayer! I believe with God, All things are possible...Blessings