Originally Posted by
zjw 
strange thing is all at the same time she has told me she's happy i lost weight and sobered up etc... maybe shes happy for me but not happy with how it makes her feel?
I get the vibe she wants her habits etc.. validated. I no longer sit down and plow the ice cream along side her or what not simply not doing that tells her i'm not validating her behaivior. but what can i do? I'm trying to eat healthy and such.
Sometimes when we make such significant self improvements it holds up a mirror to those around us.....
IDK, All you can do is let her know how much you love her and do your best to make her feel secure....
(it kinda sounds like insecurity and perhaps a little resentment to me.) The fact that you have changed for the
better maybe in time will translate to a good example to follow...Perhaps not, in the end it is her choice what she eats.