Originally Posted by
waitingforhope 
I don't know why that got to me but it did. On the bright side, my counselor had a cancellation today so I am off to finally fill her in on what's happened these past 10 days.
Well, I can understand why it would.
The issue I take with people who talk about marriage vows in the way that you describe above --
in sickness and in health -- is they conveniently overlook that the addict is sick because of their ultimately selfish and poor choices. To pick up to begin with is an incredibly poor decision. To sustain the addiction at the expense of everything else is selfishness at its worst.
Marriage vows only work if both parties are playing by the same set of rules. And in your case, your AH has been playing by his own rules that have undercut the viability of the marriage.
I mean, really? If people really want to hang their hats on
in sickness and in health under these circumstances, it says more about their cognitive dysfunction than it does your moral compass.