Wow.
I just realized it was a year ago today I had my husband removed from the house.
The details are kind of boring. He had moved out of the house a year or so earlier, then moved back in to save on money, with the understanding that he wouldn't drink.
Things had been going well for a few months. We were getting along great and he was reconnecting with our daughter when certain red flags started appearing. Then one day he came stumbling in, said a few mumbled words, and passed out on the sofa. I walked over, said "Yeeeeeah.... you've been drinking, haven't you?" He said "Erpm sawazzu fllarp."
I then calmly went to the phone, dialed his military chain of command, and had them remove him from the house.
I didn't realize at the time that I was putting my Alanon work into practice. I just knew that it felt right. Not easy, but not hard. Simple. Dare I say it.......
serene.
I had stated my boundary, he crossed the boundary, I enforced it.
Hello!
Why did I spend so many years complicating it?
