In my own recovery I found the Big Book to be very helpful.
The A is addicted to alcohol. The alanon is addicted to the A. Understanding the roles we play in the family disease of alcoholism from all perspectives is very enlightening.
There is nothing new under the sun...especially when it comes to alcoholism ...it is like the poor as they will always be with us.... what I have learned is that I don't have to collect alcoholics in my own life anymore because I practice a life of recovery now.