Hey Charlie, I know your struggle well, I'm right there with you. I think for some of us we are just so stubborn and it takes a while. The important thing- at least for me I have found- is to get right back up and go at it again. Each time I do I feel more and more accepting and it seems to get easier. Each time we need to change something and add something to help us. I know that we will eventually find what we are looking for.
Good for you for telling your friends. I told some important people this go around too, I think it is helping.
Keep at it buddy, you can do this.