Welcome, Mystified and StevenPaul!
Welcome back Brad, Glandon, ScooterBoo, and anybody else who is new or lurking whom I might have missed.
Glee, it looks as though you have moved into an excellent new phase of your sobriety, in which you are content in your life because you are content in yourself. Though the dynamic between you and your husband has changed a bit since you've gotten sober and formed a genuine identity, you no longer seem bitter at him. You've adopted a "life goes on" attitude which is very healthy.
I found that life became way better when I
1) started from a firm foundation and
2) learned to make the best of what I've got.