sorry to hear about what happend to you dave i really am
tell you what would of happend if i was in your shoes and i did what you did in terms of had a drink
if i felt like the girl had been as cold to me as your wife i would of had that drink and then had another 20 or so
i would of got hammered drunk and then smashed the place up, my partner would have to run out of the way as i would explode and then i would proberly end up getting arrested and thrown in a cell
then of course i would wake up the next day full of shame for what i did and wishing i never picked up that first drink
thats what can happen to me and has happend to me many many times with drink in different situations
hence i dont pick up that first drink no matter how much i hurt or how bad a feel as i know just where it will take me and the real damage i can do
the only way i have is to be sober as its just to dangerous for me