Totally in concurrence here.
I spent tons of time needing to understand alcoholism, xah's behaviors and mental state, how I got to be in my current situation, how to help my children...
And then when I finished digesting it all, the next step for me was to simply accept, let go, move on. I can get it, but I can't control it. Not anything that is xah's behaviors or state of mind.
So that meant accepting he is likely going to continue to deteriorate and do harmful things to the children and I. And I have no choice but to let go of what seems fair and just and right regarding him.
And life goes on. More peacefully.