from my first AA sponsor:
IT IS WHAT IT IS.....ISN'T IT.
or as Joe Friday said:
Just the FACTS ma'am, just the facts.
take the unsinkable Titanic. it hit the iceburg...and sank. now you could stand on the deck til she sank asking WHY did this happen....and it changes nothing. and if you stand there long enough, stuck on WHY, you will go down with the ship.
but if you ACCEPT that the ship hit something and is now sinking and get yor ass in a lifeboat, you stand a chance to survive. survival doesn't care WHY, survival only cares about what NOW?
now we know WHY the Titanic sank. and still all 1,517 souls were lost and are still lost.