It's like his chaos spreads so far and ends up affecting all of us to varying degrees. Mum being so embroiled and also vulnerable makes it awful because everyone wants to protect her and defend her. But she too was warned about what could potentially happen before getting involved after previous horrendous experiences & she chose to proceed. She's being given some money for Christmas by my grandfather and she's putting this towards her solicitors costs. This whole situation (again) could near on break her. I switch between anger for each of them.. Mum dad and brother, then pity, then a want to cut all contact as my days are so much happier when I'm not thinking r talking about this. Thank you for the replies. Xxx