I'm with lillamy for the 2468th time
That's exactly it.
Then! Once you have figured this out, it seems everyone wants to take advantage - so that's a whole other little nut to crack. How do these people find me? How do I sidestep them early-on?
The first time a man hit me - I truly thought it was my fault, because I had never heard of domestic violence. I needed to do better, be kinder.
I had to buy a one bedroom condo so I would stop taking in strays. People. Not dogs. "Helping" becomes a curse without healthy reciprocation.