Originally Posted by
zoso77 
You're not stupid. When we love someone, we tend to give that person the benefit of the doubt. Even in the face of evidence that suggests that person doesn't deserve it.
So, you made a judgment call. And all you can do now is to take ownership of it and learn from it based on the outcome. That's how we get honest with ourselves, and that's how we grow.
Yep, people give the benefit of the doubt or take people at face value/word because they are thinking this is what a normal sober person would do. Ownership of a judgement call is right on. The people who know they made a bad call and think about it are the ones that will learn & adapt. Life isn't about the perfect record, it's about taking a loss and still be able to move on.