Lexie,
Thank you for the well-wishes. I feel better now that i went to a meeting. I do agree that he and I have to work our separate programs. I've noticed the marriage success stories come from couples working their own individual programs. The further I go, the more I understand that I need help just as much as he does.
cazzap,
Thank you for all the suggestions! I DEFINITELY have a TON of personal goals; I'm just starting from the bottom. Again. I just need to get out and make things happen for myself. My first goal is just to get back on my feet financially. I think once I am in a place of my own, everything else will come with it. You know, feeling independent again.