Originally Posted by
Raider 
I'm just so dang sad. Im trying to process your advice but I am finding it all a bit overwhelming. Just tell me this....will I ever stop crying? How do you stop the tears? I love ya' bunches. Pam.
You'll stop crying when you no longer need to cry.
You know parts of my personal story. There is simply no way for us to prepare for sudden and catastrophic loss. If we're lucky, we don't have a suitable reference for such an experience.
Drinking only aborts our natural grieving process, spreading out the pain over an artificially extended period of time with varying intensity. It can leave us eternally on "Day 1" of grief.
Are you familiar with the Dickens classic, Great Expectations? Or the excellent 1946 film adaptation? At the end, Mrs. Havisham personifies the destructive potential of a stifled and incomplete grieving process. (Not a spoiler since the whole story tells the whole story.)
If you haven't seen it, check out the film. It's a great story from start to finish, and if nothing else will distract you for about two hours.