Sorry to hear that. She is truly a mature and generally awesome young lady and her dad is missing out on a grand opportunity. What a wonderful gesture on her part to treat him to coffee with her first paycheck. He is totally being a "boob punch" (kids and I are big Bob's Burgers fans, Tina rules!). Someday he is not even going to remember this slag's name but will wonder why his awesome daughter only calls him 4 times a year.
I understand that this IS a big deal. Having grown up with an alcoholic jerkoff father, all I can say is good move on those Alanon meetings for her mama. My mom left my AF when I was 7 and decided that she "got rid of her problem." So here I am working out my ACoA issues on the freaking internet and in Alanon meetings at 36 instead of 17.
Big hugs to you and your DD.