Nowsthetime, I can totally relate. I, too, have a stressful job, and it is a job that I also really care about. I can get very entangled in folks' monkey business, and as a supervisor, I often find myself having to deal with that business, regardless of whether I want to or not.
Lately, I have been repeating a saying of my father's: "Don't love something that can't love you back." That is, love partners, children, family, friends, cats and dogs and other critters, but not things. Houses, cars, possessions, jobs (and maybe even nontangibles, like status, influence). It has helped me to healthily detach and has made me a better colleague too. I also find that, not hungover, I'm not as on edge. I might get annoyed, but at least I'm not negotiating a wicked head and a swirling stomach at the same time. If nothing else, I think to myself, I'm not going to let this turkey be the reason I loose my sobriety!
